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I don’t know about you, but I often struggle with my feelings. In a perfect world, I would feel happy all of the time. I would never be tired, or stressed, or anxious. I would feel sunshiny and energetic like I do on the perfect spring day when everything is going my way. The problem is… this world is not perfect… and neither am I.

How about you? Do you know what it is like to feel “all over the place” emotionally? Have you ever felt dark, overly tired, anxious, fearful, out of sorts, or just down? What do you do with those feelings? I have responded in many different ways to my feelings in the past… many of those ways were sinful which caused me to wind up with big problems on top of bad feelings. Not a pretty picture.

The Bible holds God’s answers for us no matter what emotion we experience… no matter how we feel compelled to handle strong emotions. If you belong to Jesus Christ, you should desire to know how your Heavenly Father wants you to respond to your feelings. He cares and understands feelings. He walked in our shoes once, and now he lives inside of his children. It’s amazing, he already lived his life here, faced every temptation and overcame, but he desires to “do it all again” as he walks with each one of his children through their individual lives. God made us. It only makes sense that he knows how we work … and how to fix our brokenness.

Sometimes we fear feeling how we know we’ve felt before. If you are prone to feel depressed, you may do all you can to avoid feeling those emotions. Anxiety is no fun either. (Not to mention that God tells us to trust him and stop the worry). A person who is “given to worry” may attempt to control her life in hopes that all of her worst fears will not come true. (Though no one ever has control… God does a much better job being in charge of our lives than we ever will!).

Sometimes we refuse to feel what we do not want to feel. We seek comfort at all costs. Often the cost we are willing to pay is great… we sin in order to avoid feeling. God has called us to take courage in him, believing his promises to us, and to face everything in our lives with his strength and help. Ps. 31:24 says, “Be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.” (NLT). Being strong and courageous is the opposite of refusing to feel.

The truth is, we don’t like to feel uncomfortable feelings… so, it takes something very great to cause our hearts desire to worship during those rough swings instead of turning to our sinful feeling solutions. That very great thing is our very great God. Proverbs 9:10 says, “The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom…” Fear (or right respect and awe) for the Lord is the beginning of learning to handle our feelings in a way that would show we honor and love our God.

So how do we handle feelings? First, know that feelings are not inherently evil or good. Feelings are simply a reflection of the heart. If your heart does not trust God’s promise to plan your future for your good, you will most likely feel anxiety of despair. The feeling is not the problem. The feeling reflects the heart, just as the “check engine light” on a car reflects what is going on under the hood.

The best place to begin when choosing to handle our feelings is to ask, “What am I believing about what I am facing?” Then you can grab a godly friend and ask for help searching in God’s Word for the TRUTH about what you are facing. This is hard work. Facing feelings instead of running or being destructive is hard work, but it is the work of a courageous believer!!!

Sometimes bad feelings are legitimate. Sometimes they stem from sin in our hearts. In this case, the only solution is to pray and confess that you have acted or thought against God. They turn around and do whatever it takes to obey. Again, this is hard work and it is not for the cowardly person. The person who takes obeying and pleasing God seriously is in for great reward, though!!!!!! God’s way is so the best way to live!!!

If you don’t get anything else, get this paragraph!: Take this whole discusson clear and simple… bottom line: Don’t obey your feelings. Obey Jesus. Obeying your feelings will lead you to destruction and will dishonor your God who promises that he is strong to save you. Our hearts are deceitful and wicked (Jeremiah 17:9). Our feelings come from our own (often confused) hearts. The Bible says not to trust your heart! Feelings are temporary. God is your permanent King.

I have lived this ladies. I have been the girl who has acted irrationally and destructively in order to stop bad feelings instead of facing them… AND I came to a point of deciding God is worth obeying instead of my feelings, so with God’s strength and help (and the encouragement of godly people) I practiced obeying God over my feelings every day… and now I can truly say that I know what it means to have freedom in Jesus! My feelings do not rule me! They are defeated… I may still feel bad at times (we all do living here in a fallen world), but those feelings have no power over me. I obey Jesus! : ) Now, that’s living!!! I am praying all of you would know freedom through obedience!!!

Worry: Destructive and Disobedient

Anxiety or worry is the fleshes response to problems and trials in life. It’s easy to spend hours upon hours of my life worrying about a particular situation and trying to “fix it”on my own. But, if I were to truly follow the Bible, I would cast my anxiety on Jesus believing that he cares for me like he said. “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” 1 Peter 5:7 (NLT). “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down…” Pr 12:25(NASB). Worry can fill our hearts and leave no room for joy. Worry can take over a life and lead to dissatisfaction then depression. So, how do we solve this problem? One word. Obey. Obey 1 Peter 5:7 and turn worry over into God’s hands as prayer instead of mulling over the situation. Giving problems/desires/worries/situations to God is easier said than done, though, at least for me. Casting our cares on God doesn’t mean asking him for help so we can keep trying to solve it on our own and keep worrying. I need to surrender it to him and TRUST him to take care of me. You do too. It may not turn out the way we want, but we could waste a lot of time worrying instead of just letting God work without getting in the way. We cannot accomplish anything by our consistent disobedient worry anyway. It is only destructive… never constructive.

Do Not Worry (Matthew 6:25-34)

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?    28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

 

(post written by Lauren, RBL’s blog writer)

This blog was written by a friend of mine, Tiffany. She speaks of how she has found hope and purpose in her life. I pray that her blog ministers to your heart. If you’d like to speak with someone about finding hope and purpose in your life through Jesus Christ, please visit the site below and contact me.

-Stephanie Lampman (www.restoredbyloveministries.org)

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Did you ever push someone away, putting yourself first? See someone hurting but just walked away? Plan to get together with someone but decided to make other plans? Be a listening ear? Be a friend? Flip out on someone without realizing their feelings to your reaction? Joke with someone but have the person take it seriously?

No one is perfect. We are all broken. We all make mistakes. We are all searching for something more.

Did you ever feel alone? Broken? Lost? Worthless? Hopeless? Unloved? Like no one cared? Did you ever just feel that you had no worth to even continue living your life anymore? That you actually tried to hurt yourself to feel alive. That maybe this will help numb the pain. Maybe if I cut myself, someone will notice me. Or maybe if I go get high and smoke pot I can drowned out everything. Or maybe you’ve even considered taking your own life or even tried too.

I’m here to tell you that you are not alone. You have worth. You are loved. You have purpose. And I care about you. I have walked in these footsteps times & times again. I struggled with cutting, depression, & even tried to take my own life 3 different times. I know what it’s like to feel alone; like no one understands what you’re going thru. I know what it’s like to feel broken; like everything around you is falling apart. I know what it’s like to feel lost; like no one even wants you around. I know what it’s like to feel hopeless; like there is no hope in the world for you. I know what it’s like to feel unloved; like everyone hates you. I know what it’s like to feel like no one even cares; like no one ever has any time for you. I know what it feels like to be depressed; like you don’t want to live another day. Lastly I know what it’s like to feel worthless; like the only way to escape the pain is to take your own life. I know because I’ve been there. But there is hope. There is healing. There is love.

You might be thinking, but Tiff how did you come out of this? How did you find worth? Hope? Healing? Love? Purpose? My answer to your questions is Jesus Christ. Jesus brought me hope, worth, healing, love, & purpose. You might be thinking; well Jesus might have saved you but He can’t save me. No one can. But don’t believe that lie for one second. Jesus can save you & I have proof.

Did you know that you are forgiven? 

When God sent His One & Only Son into the world to die for you, Jesus took your sins too: everything you would ever do wrong. He took it because Jesus didn’t want you to be destroyed. God sent His Son so that after we die we could spend eternal with Him in Heaven. Jesus didn’t want to see you punished for your sins so instead Jesus took that punishment for you when He was hung on the cross to die for you. But just because He died doesn’t mean you automatically go Heaven. This is want you have to do to be saved:

A: Admit that you haved sinned & be willing to turn from your sins.

B: Believe that Jesus in God’s Son who died for you & was raised from the dead. This isn’t just believing with your head but trusting Jesus for forgiveness of your sins.

C: Call on the Lord, confess your sins, & committ your life to Him. This is the willingness to turn from your sins & to turn to Christ as your Savior & Lord.

 Here are 2 verses from the bible to sum this up in Truth:

“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him is acquitted; anyone who refuses to trust him has long since been under the death sentence without knowing it. And why? Because of that person’s failure to believe in the one-of-a-kind Son of God when introduced to him.”-John 3:16-18

“Who believes what we’ve heard and seen? Who would have thought God’s saving power would look like this? The servant grew up before God—a scrawny seedling, a scrubby plant in a parched field. There was nothing attractive about him, nothing to cause us to take a second look. He was looked down on and passed over, a man who suffered, who knew pain firsthand. One look at him and people turned away. We looked down on him, thought he was scum. But the fact is, it was our pains he carried—our disfigurements, all the things wrong with us. We thought he brought it on himself, that God was punishing him for his own failures. But it was our sins that did that to him, that ripped and tore and crushed him—our sins! He took the punishment, and that made us whole. Through his bruises we get healed. We’re all like sheep who’ve wandered off and gotten lost. We’ve all done our own thing, gone our own way. And God has piled all our sins, everything we’ve done wrong, on him, on him. He was beaten, he was tortured, but he didn’t say a word. Like a lamb taken to be slaughtered and like a sheep being sheared, he took it all in silence. Justice miscarried, and he was led off—and did anyone really know what was happening? He died without a thought for his own welfare, beaten bloody for the sins of my people. They buried him with the wicked, threw him in a grave with a rich man. Even though he’d never hurt a soul or said one word that wasn’t true. Still, it’s what God had in mind all along, to crush him with pain. The plan was that he give himself as an offering for sin so that he’d see life come from it—life, life, and more life. And God’s plan will deeply prosper through him.”-Isaiah 53:1-10

So this is how I found worth, hope, love, purpose, & so on; Jesus is the answer. If it weren’t for Jesus saving me from myself I honestly would not be here today. But because of what He did I am. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t thank Jesus.

But I don’t know where your at in life. Maybe tonight your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you? Maybe you are so stressed out with school that you can’t take it anymore. Maybe your parents just got divorced? Maybe you just found out your pregnant? Maybe you just got busted for drugs? Maybe you’ve been abused? Maybe you feel like giving up? Or Maybe you are at the end of your rope & feel suicide is the only way out?

But please hold on. There is help & treatment available for you. Rescue is possible. Suicide is not the answer.—“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.”-Revelation 21:4-6

I love you so much; but most importantly Jesus loves you. But tonight I watched a movie called “To Save A Life.” This movie has changed me from the inside out. I have a different outlook on life. God has showed to me thru this movie a hurting world that needs Him. I felt lead to write this tonight. I felt a tug on my heart from God telling me to take action. So I started writing. I really hope that after you have read this that it gives you some hope & positive encouragement. I pray you would take action too. You can take this or leave it where it’s at. But I know there is a hurting world out there that needs me; that needs Jesus; that needs you. If someone don’t take action, then who will. The last thing I want to hear is that one of my friends took their life. This world needs us. I can’t do this alone. But if we come together as one in Jesus name we can make a difference. We can save a life if we are willing to help others before ourselves. At the time you’re helping someone else, you are helping yourself as well.

You matter to me. You matter to someone. You most importantly matter to Jesus.

There are so many things in this life that we fear. Some of us fear death, some of us fear heights, and the list could go on and on. You name it and chances are someone somewhere is afraid of it. I think as teenagers once of the biggest things we often fear is people. Yes, maybe when you see people you don’t run the other direction screaming, but there is a sense that we take great stake in what people think about us, on whether or not our friends will like us or whether we will be accepted and be in the “in-crowd”. We try to impress each other as if their opinion of us is the only thing that gives us our worth.  If they don’t like us, we are devastated, however if they do like us we are elated. This isn’t something that just teenagers struggle with but I have found myself and I know of other adults who focus way too much on what people think.

It is often said from statistics that people fear public speaking more than death. Why do we fear speaking in public? Because we care about what people are thinking about us and questions go through our minds like what if we look “stupid”, what if I say the wrong thing, what if I make a fool of myself, ect. There is no doubt that the fear of people is a huge fear for both young and old.  But do you fear what other people will think more than you fear what God thinks about a particular situation?

I want to talk to you about two definitions of fear. The first one is the sense I was speaking of earlier which is the fear that leads to anxiety and apprehension while in a certain situation. The second kind of fear I want to talk about is the fear that is defined by a deep respect for someone or something. You see fear in the first sense makes us run away from someone, the second kind of fear makes us run toward someone.

What will it take for us to fear God so much that we want to please Him in everything we say and do instead of fearing people and fearing what they might think? So that’s my challenge to both you and me as well. We need to be so concerned about what God thinks about our actions and who we are so that there is no room for fearing what others might think or say about us. Below are some verses about fearing the Lord more than fearing others.

I encourage you to really memorize this one and make it your prayer.

Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth;

give me an undivided heart, that I may fear Your name.

–Psalm 86:11

Here are a few others:

Psalm 147:10-11: His pleasure is not in the strength of a horse, or His delight in the legs of a man; the Lord delights in those who fear Him, who put their hope in His unfailing love.

Proverbs 19:23: The fear of the Lord leads to life: Then one rests content, untouched by trouble.

Proverbs 29:25: Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.